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First Responders

"It's okay to not be okay. It's just not okay to stay there." - Chief U. Renee Hall of Dallas PD

Getting into this career was not an easy choice. When it is your calling, your purpose, there is no turning back. You love the work you do, but it's gotten to a point where it isn't fulfilling you the way it did when you started. It's become an issue in your relationships, and you don't know how to change it. The ongoing barrage of hard situations you face every day in your job isn't helping. People who lie, verbally attack you, scream and blame you for the circumstances they created, things you've seen that you can't unsee. On top of it all, there is the anti-responder culture on social media and the news. It all begins to weigh you down. It's hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel. 
First responders face situations every day most people couldn't even imagine. The long shifts, mandatory overtime, and missed events with loved ones can be exhausting. You want so hard for the job to not effect you after you take off the uniform. But then things happen, and you can't re-engage with the ones you love. Managing emotions with the high-stress days often requires you to check-out emotionally. Checking back in afterwards? Sometimes, it isn't an option. After a while, you begin to struggle with sleeping, more so than usual with the shift work. Your close friends and relatives comment on your moodiness, which doesn't help. You find your job takes its toll. Training did not prepare you for this. There was no "defensive tactics" class on how to manage the effects of your career journey on your personal life. You find yourself being easily frustrated with little things. You are on edge, and having a hard time getting back to yourself. But you push on through because "it's all part of the job". 
Except, you know it doesn't have to be this way. Yes, the job is tough. Yes, the demands are exhausting. No, you can't imagine doing anything else.

The battle has gotten out of control, but you don't have to fight it alone.

Growing up as the daughter of a police officer helped me to understand the family dynamics that are "normal" to first responder families. As the spouse of a law enforcement officer, I now see it all from a different and more insightful perspective. I understand the circumstances that you and your family face, and have the clinical experience and knowledge to support you in the process. First responder and military cultures are often misunderstood by those outside of the culture itself, and thus it can be difficult to find someone who comprehends the adversity faced in these careers. 
Through my services, you will be provided with insightful and meaningful counseling. I provide services for law enforcement, firefighters, EMS personnel, correctional officers, dispatchers, military service personnel, and their partners or family members. Counseling services for first responders and military can be short-term or longer-term, depending on the issues you are needing support with. One of the important factors when looking for counseling services is to find someone who is culturally competent for responder culture. Having been raised by a responder, I have a deep understanding of the ways the responder life-style can impact your daily functioning. Whether it is critical incidents, stress at work, issues at home, or even the call that is stuck with you, counseling can provide you with the freedom and hope to move forward and live up to your fullest potential. 

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I offer a free 20-minute consultation for those interested in services. It will give you a chance to describe your particular issue, ask any questions about my experience and services, and to come to a decision about whether I am the right fit for you.