First Responder Couples

If you haven't figured it out yet, relationships are a struggle. Marriage relationships take so much time and effort when two people are living normal lives with no added stress of work impacting your daily life. But for you, this isn't the case. Your marriage is not just about you, your partner, and your children. There is something else you all have to face together. The first responder lifestyle
You knew it was going to be tough, but you never thought it would be this challenging. You heard about the statistics of divorce being higher in first responder couples, you heard about the way the job can hurt your relationship and impact your family. You were so ready to carry that burden with your spouse, to beat the odds and overcome the hurdles together. But right now, you aren't sure if you can. You love it, you are humbled by the work and the good your spouse is doing, but you are second guessing your initial resolve. "Is it still worth it?" All the pain and frustration you feel as a couple, all the fighting and bickering, having to constantly explain why your spouse is not with you at parties and family gatherings. And when your responder comes home, they aren't able to be fully present and connected with you or your children. It's not fair. But is it still worth it?

Find meaning without sacrificing joy!

Photo of a police/fire married couple who are closer and more connected after marriage counseling.

You and your partner can work together to find shared meaning in your experience of the first responder lifestyle. And you can do it without sacrificing the joy and love in your marriage! While not many people can understand your struggle as a first responder couple, I can. Being married to a LEO myself, I know firsthand how the job impacts your life and the life of your marriage.
In our sessions, you will learn how to increase your intimacy, both physically and emotionally, even with the shiftwork schedules. Your communication with be focused on your own strengths in order to make it easier to connect despite the chaotic responder life. You will gain a better understanding of the different ways the job can impact your life, and find solutions to overcome those obstacles. You both can create meaning in your service marriage, knowing how your strong unity will support so much more good in this world. 

Marriage Counseling sessions last between 45-90 minutes. For rates and fees, look here. Sessions occur on average once every week or two weeks, but we can also schedule these less often for those with responder schedules that make it difficult to plan regular sessions. Based on your goals and treatment needs, counseling can be as brief as 8-10 sessions or can be longer-term over a year or two. 

I offer a free 20-minute consultation for those interested in counseling services. It will give you a chance to describe your particular issue, ask any questions about my experience, and help you feel more comfortable with me.

"Chains do not hold a marriage together. It is threads, hundreds of tiny threads, which sew people together through the years."

Simone Signoret